I challenge you to attend to your relationships, but do not control them.
Lay witness to your needs, as you pay attention to theirs.
This is a dance of complex choreography – but the dance is of the utmost beauty when synchronized.
There is no other like it. It is riveting and awe-inspiring to pay witness to.
For if there ever was anything worth demanding of oneself, it would be this: The ability to stand in the presence of one’s true understanding of self, while preserving the space and interest to allow another to fill the psycho-emotional gap with theirs.
This burden falls on two sets of shoulders, but gives birth to one fundamental truth.
Unavoidable is this ask.
Avoidable is your ignorance to the ask.